When you’re single, for some reason, people feel empowered to give you relationship advice, whether you’ve asked for it (which you usually haven’t) or not. If you’re one of these well-meaning folks who have intentionally or unintentionally provided single women with unsolicited relationship advice, please reconsider what you say. Here are seven things a single woman doesn’t want to hear:
Being Single is Selfish
No single woman wants to hear she’s selfish for being single. While there are some single women who have zero interest in being in a relationship, that’s not most single women. So telling a single woman she’s selfish for being single is pretty ridiculous – nine times out of ten it’s probably not her preference. She might be satisfied in her singleness, but that doesn’t make her selfish. Either way, the reason for her singleness is her choice.
She’s Not Trying Hard Enough
Another thing no single woman wants to hear is that she’s not trying hard enough. Here’s the question – how hard is hard enough? Is she not trying hard enough because she’s not on any online dating sites? What about if she’s only on two? Is she not trying hard enough if she’s not asking her friends to fix her up on blind dates? Singleness isn’t a result of one’s lack of effort.
People, please stop saying these things.
She’s Too Picky
No single woman wants to hear that she’s single because she’s too picky. Man, listen, let’s keep it real – some folks aren’t picky enough. Yeah, I said it. When it comes to picking a potential life partner, is there even such a thing as being too picky? Can you be too picky when choosing the potential father of your children? Your potential life partner? We’re not talking about buying a loaf of bread or a pair of shoes, we’re talking about a future life mate. Ladies, if you’re single, please be picky about who you choose. Don’t let anybody shame you into settling for a low budget relationship.
Something Must be Wrong with Her
Here’s another lie, I mean, thing no single woman wants to hear – that she’s single because something is wrong with her. Listen, no tea, no shade, but I believe we can all agree that we know some folks who are in relationships, but still have personal work to do and I’ll leave it at that. Being single isn’t an indication that something’s wrong with you. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
She Has More Time to Do God’s Work
Here’s one for my single church sisters. “When you’re single, you have more time to do God’s work.” Chile…no single woman wants to hear this. Y’all know it’s possible to be in a relationship and do the will of the Lord, at the same time, right? I’m just saying…
You Feel Sorry for Her
No single woman wants to hear that you feel sorry for her because she’s single. Singleness isn’t a bad health diagnosis. It’s not something to be pitied. Please don’t tell a single woman you feel sorry for her because she’s single. She probably won’t appreciate it.
Her Value is Tied to Her Relationship Status
A woman isn’t more valuable because she’s married or less valuable because she’s single. Please don’t tell a single woman her value is somehow tied to her relationship status, because it’s not.
She’s Less Likely to Find Love the Older She Gets
Ok, I said seven, but here’s a bonus – no single woman wants to hear that she’s too old to find love. Here’s the thing – love has no expiration date and there’s no universal timeline for when love finds you. Love can find you at any time, at any age.
Are you single and been told some nonsense about being single? What’s been your least favorite? Are you booed up and guilty of telling single women one of these things? Sound off in the comments Sis.