Most of us are familiar with the phrase, “Go where you’re celebrated,” but how many of us actually live by it? We weren’t created to tolerate life until we die. We’re meant to live and enjoy life to the fullest. In order to do that, we have to surround ourselves with people and places that celebrate us, rather than tolerate or berate us. None of us will win a prize for how much stress, bs and mess we voluntarily waded through to get the finish line. Here’s why you should go where you’re celebrated:
Life Is Too Short to be Miserable
You only have this one life and it’s too damn short to spend it being miserable. Now, I’m not telling you to avoid any sign of discomfort and spend your life chasing unicorns, lollipops and gumdrops. What I’m saying is remove those people, places and things that continually and consistently cause you misery. If it’s a job, find a new one. A “friendship”, bid it goodbye. If it’s a relationship, it’s probably run its course. Bottom line: life is too short and you don’t have time to spend it being miserable with people and in places that don’t value you.
Sis, go where you’re celebrated!
Toxicity is Draining
Being around toxic people and in toxic environments is mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually draining. It’s not good for your soul or your psyche to inhabit toxic environments for significant periods of time. Personally, I experienced this at my most recent former job where, at best, I was being tolerated. It was such a toxic environment I found myself being physically and emotionally drained, moody and highly depressed. I reached a point where something had to give – either the job or me. When I realized the job environment wasn’t going to change, no matter what I did, I chose to change my environment. I’ve never looked back. Leaving that toxic environment was the best thing I could’ve done for my mental, physical and emotional health. Going where you’re celebrated is one of the best thing you can do for your mental and emotional health.
It’s Not Your Job to Make Folks Like You
Not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay. It’s not your job to try to make people like you. Honestly, there are some people who, no matter what you do, will never like you. Your job is to find your tribe – those people who love you and rock with you for who you are. Now, I’m not talking about enablers who condone bad and unhealthy habits and behaviors. I’m talking about the people who see your value, know your worth and celebrate it.
You Deserve to be Treated Right
Another reason you should go where you’re celebrated is because you deserve to be treated right. Right treatment isn’t something you have to earn – you deserve it because it’s your birthright. Period. Now, just because you deserve it doesn’t mean that people are going to do it. Unfortunately, you’ll probably run into more people that will mistreat you than treat you right. Those aren’t your people. If they’re unwilling to treat you right, it’s not your job to try to persuade them to do so by selling them on your amazing virtues. Find those people who are willing to treat you right without a sales pitch.
Tolerance Isn’t Acceptance
Just because people tolerate you doesn’t mean they accept you. There’s a difference. When people tolerate you it’s usually because they have to, not because they want to. There’s no celebration or positive energy around being tolerated. Whenever what’s causing people to tolerate you changes, you’ll likely be right out the door. When you go where you’re celebrated, not only are you wanted there, you’re accepted there. That’s where you want to be.
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