When Was Your Last Relationship Audit?

When was your last relationship audit? We get our eyes and teeth checked and go to the doctor’s office regularly, but how often do we evaluate our relationships? Personally, I believe we should evaluate our relationships just as much. Now, when I say relationships that covers romantic, friendships, partnerships, etc. Also, ask yourself how you measure up during your relationship audit – do you reciprocate what you’re asking for? What are some things you should consider in your relationship audit? Here are a few:

Is It Adding Value

One important question to ask yourself is whether or not the relationship is adding value. Value isn’t just measured financially. Does this relationship elevate you? Does it build you? If the relationship isn’t adding value, you might want to consider whether or not you need to keep it. Remember, this audit goes both ways – measure yourself with the same measuring stick.

How Does It Make You Feel

How does that relationship make you feel? Does it make you feel drained, energized, used, excited, anxious, joyful? If, after reviewing how the relationship makes you feel, you realize it causes more negative feelings than positive, you may have to make some changes. Unless you can turn those negatives around, the relationship may have run its course. You owe it to yourself to surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you. Now, I’m not saying every second of the relationship should be sunshine and blue skies, but it should be more positive than negative.

If the relationship don’t feel like THIS, I don’t want it!

Can You Be Yourself

Ask yourself, can you be you in the relationship? The real you, not the carefully edited, perfectly filtered, social media version of you. None of us are perfect and we all have our scars and flaws. Do your relationships allow you to drop your guard and be authentic? Do they provide grace when you mess up and accountability when you need it? I don’t know about you, but I’m not interested in any relationship where I have to wear a mask 24/7.

Is It Healthy

Is the relationship healthy? Sometimes we underestimate just how damaging unhealthy, toxic relationships can be on us mentally, physically and emotionally. Many people, right now, are suffering because they were damaged in unhealthy relationships. Healthy relationships help make you better. They don’t always feel comfortable, but they do help take you to the next level.

Does It Help You Grow

Finally, ask yourself, does the relationship help you grow? Anything that’s not growing is dying. That goes for plants as well as relationships. Does this relationship challenge you? Is it pushing you to be a better version of yourself? Does it help bring out your best? You weren’t meant to live a stagnant, mediocre life and you shouldn’t surround yourself with people who aren’t going to help you become your best self. Now, it’s not their job to do your work for you and do the heavy lifting, but they shouldn’t be putting bricks in your backpack either.

What do you think about relationship audits? Yay, or nay? Also, what are some other things we should consider?